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How our life priorities affect our daily lives

I was doing work just now but there was this niggling thought that kept interrupting the peace of my mind. I could not really focus on the work because I had not exercise.

To put it simply, I did not do something which I really thought was very important, and it affected my level of focus. It is not the same with everyone. Some people get affected if they do not pray the first time they wake up. Some gets affected is they do not bathe in the morning and it might well affect their morning.

I realize in life, everything is segmented into levels of priorities. There are few levels of importance; level one being the most important, and level 10 being the least. The more consistent we are in completing or achieving the top levels, the more significant we feel, and the more self assured we are.

For now, my level one will be my excercises and workouts. This may seem dumb or not really significant, but like I said, it depends on what and how you think. If workouts make you feel significant, of course it is critical you do them because it affects your mood and self assurance indirectly for the rest of the day.

Just like ladies who binge and feel all lousy after that, their level one priority will be eat healthily and in small consumption. When they violate their priorities, they feel like crap, therefore, feel very distracted, and indirectly lowers their morale and significance. Even if their level two priority might be looking good, and they manage to wear terrific branded makeup, level one priority still overrules, and it is hard for them to feel good about themselves.

There is a need to find the priorities in our lives and to fulfill them at the earliest time possible so that you will feel more significant and self assured for the rest of the day.

Anyway, level two priority for me would be studies :P

The way we think

I am always intrigued by how we think will affect our frame of mind. How does one has the ability to maintain self control and self assurance in an event of emergency and chaos.

How does one able to remain positive despite the terrible challenges he or she is facing. I have also seen people intending to commit suicide just because he fails his exams. What are the external factors that contribute to this mental form, and what this guy is thinking at the back of the head when he imagines suicide.

The mind, to me, is a fascinating web of facts, imagination and information. Whatever you store in that library in your head will ultimately come true. This library provides a sense of direction to where you are heading. It becomes corrupted when negativity comes in.

That is what I realized. After years and years of researching on the power of the mind, I realized this concept is definitely true. What you think will become true. That is the reason why Albert Einstein quoted that imagination is better than knowledge. I infer that everything starts with the mind. The mind is the central processing unit for our actions, so on and so forth.

As I continue researching into this interesting subject, I would gladly accept comments and feedback from those who have experienced it also for those who thinks life is a bitch.

Don’t complain, but think of solutions

I remember when I first started out to work, I complained about a lot of stuff. Problems that I have at work, how it affected my work, and how terrible I felt. I realized that the more we complain about unnecessary problems which does not affect others, the more we magnify that problem, and the more petty we seem to them.

For example we have a problem with our manager and we keep complaining about the pile of work and how unfair he is to us. We tell all these to our co workers or maybe to siblings. Day after day, we complain to them, while your manager keeps quiet and focuses on his job. One fine day you realize that people around you gets used to it, and they realize how miniscule they are. Your complains becomes a sort of annoyance and you will no longer sound important to them.

So, how do you complain properly to people?

Facts and figures

When you complain about someone, make sure you have the facts and figures with you. For example, if you want to keep complaining that the person is unfair to you, provide specific scenarios like timing and the exact deeds he has done, and not just vague recollections. If you are going to say the person is unfair just by the amount of workload he or she gives you, then you are not justifying what you say and people may well call you petty. Give facts like how you and a co worker of the same caliber were given 2 different workloads while you are already married and he is still single. Even by saying so, the evidence is not strong enough. The audience will just take it that you manager might think you as the more capable staff and receive higher pay, and therefore allocates more work to you than you co worker. That, to the audience, does not count as unfairness. So you will need to think of a more concrete evidence.

Instead of complaing, ask ourselves why this happens to us and not others

Yes, you can blame on luck to what happened to you. You may believe everything was against you when the downfall happened. Instead of yakking away to other people about your problems, why not refocus and channel to different questions instead? Why were we treated like dirt? Why did our co workers treated us badly last time? Why did our boss nearly fire us last month? Don’t keep pushing the blame. Ask the question, and whether have we tried enough? If we had, then why are we still facing with the problem? Is there any deficiency that we need to improve on, like better communication? If you ask the correct questions, you get correct answers. If you ask negative questions, you get negative answers as well.

So in a nutshell, complaining sucks because:

  1. It demoralizes the people around us
  2. It puts us in a bad light
  3. You cannot improve yourself
  4. You will be stuck in a hell hole for as long the complains stay
  5. It gives out negative energy

And if we are not careful, we become a society of whiners.

Don’t think, just act

We have all think throughout our entire lives. Thought of the future, of the past, and at time we can even think RIGHT NOW. We tend to think and think to the extend it cripples our present moment. We do not take action now due to the continuous thinking. I have realized this is one of my biggest crippling action in my entire life.

I will think of various things. Mundane stuff like should I work out or not. What if I did and get tired after that, and then I would not be able to continue my work, so on and so forth.
That thinking process becomes habit forming and it builds momentum from there. The more we think, the more crippled we get.

What we focus on and do today, will determine our tomorrow, definitely. If I procrastinated to jog every morning, will I be fitter tomorrow than I am today? Of course.

Thinking about the past does not help either. The past does not shape us. We can eliminate the past, and start right now. Never hold back. I have a few deficiencies which I am still trying to eliminate, and it takes time and effort. I have a strong belief that my life will not just end here, being an IT personnel. I know I have more potential than that, and it is coming out soon.

Stop thinking, and take more action. We can never stop our minds from thinking, but we can focus it to something clearly positive. The more clear you are on the positives, the better impact you get in your daily life, and the better your chances to accomplish your goals that you have for that entire year!

Not lowering your standards

This morning I was really tired as I had been running since Sunday and doing circuit training in the afternoon. I did not feel like running just now but after focusing on my goals, I got the motivation back. I did quite well, almost reducing the amount of time to nearly a minute. Of course, it was a really tiring run. Basically what I do everyday is not just a normal jog, rather a run that pushes the heart to its limit. Everytime I reach the final mark, I get really exhausted.

I felt like doing a slow jog, but I would not want to lower my standards. I have been through ups and downs in my fitness regime. I realized once you lower down your standards during a workout, it somehow creates a mental anchor that whenever you do your workouts, you give yourself the ability to relax and not push yourself hard enough to expand. You can do your very best on one day, but you can also allow yourself to relax when you do not feel that good.

That should not be the case. I admit it is very hard to instill the discipline at first, but I had to constantly focus on my goals and mental image every time I feel like giving up. I was about to take the lift just now because I was satisfied with the run, and felt like skipping walking up the stairs which I normally do. Once I got my focus back and mental image in order, naturally, I climbed the stairs without much mental negotiation.

I will never ever going to lower my standards anymore. Once I focus on a goal, I will do my best to get to where I aim, and the tough gets going, I will get tougher than that. I will not sit back and relax.

I often get demoralized when things do not turn out the way it should be. The truth is, this kind of things happen, and it must not affect you. I realize I have to keep on going. If today does not work out to what you aim for, continue doing it day by day, and I guarantee, the results will show.

We all hate to study but we force ourselves to for our future. Why not in other aspects of our lives?